Fakery is never good. For me if there’s a need to be faking some part of you it stems from a need to look or show up in a certain way and that has the ego written all over it. However, there may be instances when you may need to pretend to be happy. It could be because you want to avoid hurting someone, or it’s a part of your job, or you want to fit in in a new environment that’s important to your growth. Whatever the case may be, just make sure you don’t end up fooling yourself into thinking you’re happy when you’re actually not. Here are six compelling reasons why you shouldn’t fake your happiness:
1. You’re eventually going to hurt the people you’ve lied to
Pretending to be happy may work for a short period of time. But the longer it drags on, the more you convince people you are indeed happy. But what happens when the truth finally comes out? Those people who have been believing in your happiness are going to feel utterly disappointed, destroyed even, especially if they genuinely cared about your well-being. They’d feel like they’ve wasted their time and effort trying to make you happy, only to find out you’ve been faking it this whole time. If you’re trying to build long-lasting relationships, don’t lie, because we all know the truth always comes to light one way or another.
2. You’re going to turn it into a bad habit
When you routinely fool yourself and others into thinking you’re happy, then chances are you could be turning your fakery into a bad habit. It’s like putting a wall of fake happiness between you and others. They think they know you, but the sad truth is, they don’t. Then once you’ve begun to strengthen this habit it will be inevitably hard to break it, then who knows when you are genuinely happy or not.
3. You’ll start resenting genuinely happy people
The more you see genuinely happy people, the more you realize how effortless and natural their happiness is. You, on the other hand, have to put on an entire persona to look happy. You’ll start questioning why they have it easier than you do, and that’s just not a nice thing to be doing. The masks and different roles you’ll find yourself playing will become a heavy load to continue to portray and you’ll notice the darker emotions become the ones on the surface more often.
4. You’re not going to grow as a person
When you’re boxing yourself into a corner by hiding your true feelings, you’re not going to grow. And by grow, I mean, developing positive habits and generally, improving yourself. It’s really hard to try to make happy and healthy choices from a place of inauthenticity. You’ll become stuck in a cycle you don’t want to be in and can’t see a way out of.
5. You’re going to end up physically sick
You can actually become physically ill when you force yourself to act happy. Putting on a fake happy persona can take its toll on your spirit and body and increase your stress levels. You’ll eventually become literally sick and tired. When we don’t allow ourselves to acknowledge, accept and express our emotions in the moment we repress them causing them to become trapped in our body. Trapped emotions lead to physical illness and will start affecting other areas of your life.
6. You’re going to hurt yourself
Lying to yourself can do that to you. You’re not just hurting yourself emotionally, but also mentally and physically. You can only take so much mental abuse from that little voice in your ear before it becomes too much. Faking happiness leads to negative self talk which can be very damaging on many levels.
If you find yourself faking your happiness for whatever reason it may be and it’s leading to one of the damaging behaviours above it’s time for a self intervention. Take a step back and ask yourself why you are doing it? What would be so wrong about showing up as you? With your real and valid emotions? What are you or who are you hiding from or trying to impress? It’s time to seek the true happiness that you deserve, so every time you catch yourself faking it in the future stop, flip it and find a way to bring genuine joy into the moment or be proud to express how you really feel in the moment, it will free you from so much weight.
Happy wandering x
Feeling like everything is becoming too much and would love for your energy to feel balanced again? Book your personal energy healing session with me here to reclaim your peace